Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Honey.....I'm Home!

Whew, catching my breath! Thanks again to Nicole for her lovely post! If you have not read it yet please do go below and check it out! I've been on a whirlwind and got back a few hours early so have list of randomness from this week I thought I would share before I conk out in My Very Own Bed Thank Heaven. I will visit tomorrow after I catch up on some stuff!

1. The day before I left, the property (empty, no homes in danger) across the street caught on fire. The neighborhood was very excited as we have lived here since 1998 and nothing has ever caught fire except our chimney the first year we were here and then all we did was run outside and TheSurfer got up on the roof with a fire extinguisher and shot it down the chimney. When we moved in this was a narrow dirt road and over the years more houses were built. There was much consternation about narrowness of the road and safety in emergencies and the road was eventually paved and part of it widened. We all finally got to test the theory of whether the fire trucks would fit and when they came they didn't even use the sirens. 2 police cars a police motorcycle ( apparently there wasn't much going on) and a fire truck and not one siren. they all stood around and talked while the fire department put it out like a bunch of guys watering the lawn. Very disappointing to say the least.

2.I didn't really have time to go in to Middlests' latest report card but judging from what we have so far, I have to say that despite her intelligence, barring miracles I don't think any college scholarships will be forthcoming. Therefore I am resorting to the $10,000 scholarship sweepstakes on the Cheez It boxes and am consuming as many Cheez Its as I can. With the stress of worrying about her grades this method is sure to work and I think I have a really good chance of winning enough to pay for at least 3 weeks at the college of her choice. Also in the mail i noticed the National Guard is courting her. If I hand her over I think I can get a really cool sweatshirt.

3. All is not lost after all in Littlests' love life. She found she misunderstood something she overheard and may still have a chance. However I am starting to question our families sanity and began wondering if we should change our name to the Di Bergerac's when I realized all of us were standing with her and Biggest and Decent Guy were on the phone with me giving her advice helping her decide what to say next during a text conversation with the boy.

4. Biggest called me today and told me she found a giant snapping turtle in her yard. it was angry. There is no fresh water in very close proximity to her house and she didn't know where he came from but managed to get him in a recycling bin using a shovel and a rake and a water spray bottle. When her husband came home they loaded the bin in the back of the truck and strapped it up to the cab. They were going down the highway to a nearby preserve when Biggest glanced back and saw turtle feet perched on the rail of the truck bed. She turned to look out the window and saw the turtle craning his neck forward face in the wind........exactly like a dog riding in the back of the truck. She was too stunned to get a picture unfortunately, they had to stop quick before he climbed out and fell but if you were going down the road today and saw that,     yes it was real!.....and it was my family.

As I was considering the week I looked to the sky above me as though to ask, wth? And then I saw it.

Ah Yes, of course.....

Moon Music.

Wall of Voodoo - Mexican Radio
Uploaded by Kanun. - Watch more music videos, in HD!

Umm, Kanun's other music was like something Biggest would listen to on a flashback day.....

Link to Daily Motion

Wall Of Voodoo   Support the Awesomeness. You know you want to.......

Saturday, April 24, 2010

Guest Post! Our Hidden Secrets To Raising Teens.

Please Welcome..

Nicole from  Help!Mama Remote... who is a Bloggy Blessing to me by Guest posting, as I have been working out of town and leave again tomorrow for some more work on the project.
I love reading her blog because she is always Real and Being Herself and that is one funny, wise and admirable woman! And of course..An Awesome Mom!

And so.......

I'd like to take this time and thank MOTPG for giving me this opportunity of being her guest blogger today. MOTPG was my first commentor when I started my blog last year. Not only did she comment but she came back! WooHoo! I'm also a faithful reader here. Here I receive encouragement and strength while raising my children. Thanks MOTPG for you encouraging posts.

Our Hidden Secrets To Raising Teens

I'm also a mom of a teenage daughter along with a 10 yr & a 2yr old. I've always envied moms that have their children close in age. However I do believe it was for my own sanity, that I didn't.

Being the mom of a teenager can be challenging at times but not as challenging as, I was to my mom.(Shhh don't tell) Not only is my teen a girl (Ewww), she's an athlete. Which I can admit I do believe that is the reason she's not as challenging as I was(No time for an idol mind).

Growing up I didn't KNOW who God had created me to be. Therefore I allowed people to dictate who I was. So, often I encourage her to KNOW who God has created her to be and not allow people to dictate, who she is.

We all have our secret struggles that we'll never tell our children. But....actually, we tell all our secrets....they are hidden in our love, warnings, joy, when we chastise , encouragement & praise.

Now they must find them, use them and pass them on to their children.

Nicole's blog is Help! Mama Remote... Where she blogs about her personal life as a wife, mom and business owner.

Saturday, April 17, 2010

She is...Something...

I have to leave tomorrow to work out of town for a week. Something I rarely have had to do but that may become more common. I haven't been away from the kids for a whole week since like....almost forever but I am thinking of them today before I go because they tickle me. And I won't have to listen to anyone arguing or begging me for a ride etc....for 6 days. Wow!

I am thinking of Biggest.
Having an adult child is very interesting.  With Biggest it is particularly amusing. If you are familiar with her past it is amusing, puzzling and exceptionally sweet.

Yesterday she came over to make sure that Middlest was off to the Prom in good form. She was not in school for Prom herself and at the time would have said....well something really nasty about going to proms  but anyway, she fussed & bothered & called her husband to bring safety pins when he came to pick her up (We were having a strapless bra issue) and make sure he came early enough to see her sister before she left.
She also brought her camera and took pictures : ) It was sweet.
  While she was here she also got on the subject and told us she already told her husband that she was not going to put us in nursing homes when we got old, to be ready because we were going to live with them. This was news to me. I told Middlest "she is threatening to have us live with her instead of putting me in a nursing home, don't let that happen!" ; ) It was sweet.

The area we live in involves a set of small towns that are all adjoined. If I walk across the street I'm in a different town, and these are adjoined to a large town & city. We had to drive about 40 minutes into the big town for the prom. These are the text messages I started to receive last night after we drove Middlest to Prom.

 9:25  Did yall get home ok?
 9:35  Did she seem ok?
10:30 When do you have to leave to pick her up?
11:18 Let me know when you get there please. To which I answered, "We haven't left yet."
11:27 When then?
11:46 Do you have her?
11:47 Let me know when you do.
12:06 Is she ok? (She was worried there would be friend drama over Mid breaking up with her boyfriend)
12:07 Good. Send me a message when you get home.
12:40 Are you home?
If I forgot to send that message she would have been setting my phone on fire with texts to check.
From a child that drove me gray haired with worry and was responsible for a good many wrinkles and an ocean of tears, I find this so sweet and touching and well.....honestly *sweet* hee hee.
But goodness, here I thought I was close to being my own boss and now I have another Mother : )
She is a mess....and she is sweetness.

I am thinking of Middlest:
This young lady is so unselfconscious it amazes me. Though sometimes her single minded purpose is at odds with me, I like to see this. How many 16 year olds would not only choose to go to prom with no date but choose to go even though her friend that was supposed to keep her company ditched her for a last minute date and have her parents drive her there and pick her up. When I was her age I would have died first. She looked stunning. She rose from the back seat, adjusted her dress, held her head high and "regally" no joke,
paraded into the building.
And she had fun. She danced. She told us she was told that apparently she can dance. It is a recessive gene. One of my sisters has it and my Grandmother did, but the rest of us here, nope! She said she danced with friends, and people she had never seen before. She danced all night and had a wonderful time. She even managed to smooth things out to "we can get along " with the old boyfriend.
 I am so glad she enjoyed herself. Especially as today she is officially grounded for her 3rd quarter grades.
But I admire that strength, the ability to be yourself and do your own thing without giving a damn what anyone thinks. She is grounded but....she is also Awesomeness: )

I am thinking of Littlest
Who started off with a really bad week. I kind of hate to leave her right now but she says she will be ok. She had her moment of weakness. Figured out that things may not be what she thought. She isn't sure but it might be ok in the end and if it ends up not being what she wants, well she is ready to persevere. She is such an insightful person and willing to make the best of what comes her way. She may get down but doesn't let it keep her down. She is not grounded even though she failed gym this quarter. How do you fail gym you ask? You fail gym if it is winter time and sweat pants are "ugly". That is how. Really, I don't care if she failed gym one 9 weeks. She had a cruddy week. I let her sister go to prom even though she has officially failed German for the year.
She is Perseverance and....well....she's my Baby: )

Love You Girls! And No I will not miss my blog more than you!

However, I Will miss it and visiting  bloggy world this week.
Have a Good One Everybody!

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Friday, April 16, 2010

Hey Littlest!

Get Off My Blog And Go To Bed!


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Tuesday, April 13, 2010


So..... they sent me home! Good thing,  because I have to work out of town all next week and now I can flood my blog with posts this week to get it out of my system. Tomorrow I have A Very Long Post. So make a Pot of tea if you are going to sit long enough to read it.
 I saw a lot of good stuff I want to read but am saving it all for morning when I can peruse at my leisure.  Here is a random list of thoughts.

1. Court is a scary place and though it was interesting i am glad i didn't have to stay there and decide the fate of scary people.

2. Middlest waited till the last minute to decide to go to prom,which is this friday. All the dresses were on sale. Littlest picked the perfect dress for her and it was marked down $70.00 % off. She fell in love with a pair of "Perfect" shoes that were originally $55.00 bucks and marked down to $20.00, but they were out of her size. She froze in the chair and refused to move without those shoes. A fairy Godmother with a name tag on finally walked up and said"I actually do have 1 pair in the back in your size but some one left a mark on them so I had to put them away for no sale as defective." Middlest said I don't care as long as I get those shoes, I'm probably only wearing them once. And she got them for $15.00. And the scuff is on the bottom, you can't see it. So I got off amazingly cheap and middlest is going to prom, even though she doesn't have a date because she dumped her boyfriend. But she is going to be stunning. I can't wait to dress her up, it's like having a life size Barbie Doll. When Middlest was little Biggest and I used to make her up sometimes just to freak ourselves out.

3. I need to Thank Oikology 101 at this link for the instructions on making my  blog button. This was the easiest I found after trying forever!
It took me two extra days because I am ornery and bullheaded and refused to accept that I couldn't do it with picasa because I have this weird quirk (psychosis) about registering for things and I just didn't want to have to remember another username and password but I finally caved and have a button. I don't even care whether anyone grabs it I'm just tickled with it myself.

4. Umm, I forgot what 4 was gonna be and I'm yeah...Later!

5. Oh wait, A long time ago in the dark ages of fall when I started this I listed 3 books for helping with teen problems. They are all useful. In particular this one: Parenting Your Out Of Control Teen by Scott P.  Sells was a GodSend to me. I was reading all kinds of stuff and when I found this I was so relieved because a lot of what it covers was exactly what we were experiencing and it was the first time I had found things put this way. It made perfect sense. I found it a little late in the game with my oldest but was still able to put some of it to use and I learned some techniques that are very useful with my other daughters too. I highly recommend it if you are having problems with your teen. Even if you aren't read it anyway, just in case! That's All!

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Sunday, April 11, 2010

Doing My Civic Duty

If I'm not around
I wish I could be
I'll be back to visit
As soon as I'm free
To see what you're up to
Or just play the fool
But I've been summonsed
For the jury pool
So all I have
Is little poem
Unless they decide
To send me home!

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Thursday, April 8, 2010

Middlest Has A New Crush!

On Frank McCourt.
I really hated having to tell her that he passed away last year.  She  wanted to write and tell him how much she loved the books. She was wandering around complaining of having nothing to read awhile back when I thought of  Angela's Ashes and presented it to her. She devoured it and then put in a request at the library for Tis' and waited impatiently for 2 weeks till it came from another branch.

The copy of Angela's Ashes I gave her was my mothers. The funny thing is, she had a crush on Frank McCourt too. I remember when the book was first published and my mother read it and couldn't wait for me to read it so that we could discuss it. I adored the book also but fell short of falling in love with the author. My mother was way ahead of me and had the internet before we did.  She was on the AARP chat room with her online friends and having long talks about the book with the same excitement as teenagers talking about their favorite band.

What did a (at the time she first read it) 69 year old woman and a now 16 year old girl have in common to cause this similar reaction. Kindred Spirits in almost every way. They both even tried Malachy McCourts books but found them wanting. My mother always remarked that Middlest acted like her as a girl and as I mentioned in my previous post, even after she wasn't clear on who she was, still carried this affinity for my middle child.

The sharing of books is something I missed very much when my mother stopped reading. As Middlest gets older I revel in sharing my favorites with her. And even more so, sharing the books that my mother passed on to me. I recognize, in my feeling when I think of one to share,  the memory of the tone of my mothers voice and her smile when she gave me a book and later asked what I thought. The words, "How far are you?" "Did you finish it yet?", What did you think of......?"

 The Secret Garden, Little Women, The Diary of Anne Frank, The Good Earth.
And authors like,  Poe, Tolstoy, Willa Cather, and our modern favorites;  Maya Angelou, Garrison Keillor, Fannie Flagg, Anne Tyler and Lee Smith among many more. These are the most beloved gifts my mother gave me.  As she grows I am sharing these and others with Middlest.

Most of all, A Tree Grows In Brooklyn. How my mother loved that book. My mom could identify with Francie on many levels. She lived in Brooklyn as a girl. She was the oldest with a younger brother and sister, part of her heritage was Irish. And her father was an amiable, story telling, singing alcoholic, who could not always provide well for their family. She was bursting with excitement that Christmas as I opened my surprise book gift. My parents usually gave the gifts I asked for but every year my Mom secretly chose books to share with me. She couldn't wait for me to read it. Once I started I never wanted to put it down.

Middlest is my reader. When she was in middle school she was complainig she had nothing to read. And I remembered the worn, torn dog eared book on my shelf. I could hardly contain my excitement as I held it out,"Here, read this." And once Middlest started, she never put it down.  Then I started, " How far are you?"  "Did you finish it yet?" What did you think of...?"

It is our treasured legacy. Three Francie's who could easily sit forever and read every book in the library. Who will read our beloved favorite, over and over again. I had to buy us a new copy.

Middlest has abducted Angela's Ashes and is holding it in her room. I am going to leave it there. I can hear her voice, I love him and echoing in it  my mother...I love him. I love this book. I love this book. I don't want it to end.
I think my mother has spoken. The book stays on Middlest shelf and when it is worn and tattered, along with Francie.
I hope she will pass it on.

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Monday, April 5, 2010

So I Took Off My Cape & My Tights....

This poem A Cup of Tea and a Book I posted in November was actually written in 2007. it described exactly how I felt at the time. And sometimes still do.

 That was the year I realized there are some things you can't control.  I used to be a highly organized individual. My calendar was marked clearly. I knew where everyone was supposed to be, what they needed to do, and orchestrated how it was all accomplished. It was not the year I had the worst problems with my oldest. Those were behind us. During that time I had soldiered on. Held my head up and looked people in the eye while trying not to let judgement get to me. Continued to carry on making sure the younger girls lives were as normal, fruitful, and fulfilling as any other child's despite the issues our family faced at the time. Supermom had been caught by surprise but fought valiantly to fix something that ultimately had to fix itself and at the same time help run the business, check homework, listen to cello practice, drive to gymnastics, balance the checkbook & a meal. And it had wore me out. But I moved forward still.

I met my husband when I was 19, married at 20, had my daughter at 21.  We were married 7 months when I wound up pregnant and though we weren't planning on starting a family right away we were glad of it and took the job seriously  and I was prepared to throw myself into this job. Which meant staying home with my child even though we would be poor as dirt. I like dirt.
  During those years we shared a home with my husbands grandfather. It was a good arrangement for all of us. Relieving financial stress and giving him someone to help out with things he couldn't keep up with. We all lived together for several years including the years after he suffered a bad stroke and when he needed care, we provided it. So basically I spent my 20's taking care of a badly disabled elderly man and small children. I liked my little life.  I didn't have the ambition of doing anything else. But at times it was very secluded. And I learned my strength by emptying urine bottles along with changing diapers. My biggest outing was usually when my husband would stay at home and I would go visit my parents.

   When Biggest was six the Grandfather was no longer with us. My husband looked at me and said, "hey she is starting school, do you want to go back to work?" And I said "hey, let's have some more kids!" ; ). Not really...but sorta. During the following years I was busy with the kids schools and activities. Making sure they had every opportunity available to them and helping my husband start his business. We had several years of growth and stability building a normal life. I was Supermom, and when problems evolved as Biggest hit her teens I continued on even in the face of adversity.

 I love being a mother. At this point in my life I can't think of any place I would rather be or wish that I would rather have fulfilled. I have fallen into my role: The Caregiver, which includes sometimes feeling like the Worry Warrior, or Keeper of the World. It comes so naturally to me now that I have to say This is what defines me.

But still..I remember when the younger girls were in preschool. I mentioned to the other moms that I couldn't wait till Littlest started 1st grade. All there with their firstborns, they looked at me like I was a black mark on motherhood. I laughed. But, I said, "I've been doing this for ten years." I haven't been alone since I was 19. My husband and I were married 12 years before we were able to take a trip with just the two of us. There were times on that trip I had to admit, I didn't miss anyone. Well, little twinges. But not much.
They were all in full time school for 2 years and I had a little more time for myself, before Biggest crashed and burned and I set my new freedom aside to begin Homeschooling. I had to learn Algebra all over again, Oh Joy!

  In 2007 I thought I could catch my breath. The kids were finally old enough that I could leave them on their own and function without 6 legs. Biggest was doing well. Middlest was accepted into the high school she had been working toward for 4 years. Littlest had just come through a difficult period was coming out of her shell & seemed to be losing some of the sadness that had plagued her. Perhaps I could get off the hotwheels track I had been on for years from home, helping with office work, to school, to the grocery, bank, post office, sports and kids events every now and then and pick up a paintbrush or Go Do Something...of my own!  The economy was causing  stress in our business but we had dealt with that before.
 And then......
After my father passed away my mom had gone to live with my sister who is single and doesn't have kids. At the time mom moved in she was still working part time and led an independent life. Later she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's.  My sister  was a  police detective and as my moms disease progressed I took on some of the daytime duties of driving her to doctors & her volunteer work at a hospital. I can never express how much appreciation I feel for my sister for taking on the bulk of this job during those years. It is the hardest one in the world. My mom had progressed to the point where she needed to be in an adult day care during the day when my sister was injured at work. She was under financial stress as well as worrying about the future and trying to deal with Mom who was wavering between stage 2 & 3. She couldn't handle it anymore. Could I take this on? Why not, I was Supermom.

My husband was terrific and dealt with my mom beautifully. He really had a way with her and could playfully tease her into calming down. And the kids really did their best to be understanding. But, this was when my need to be organized and in control sent me over the edge. I loved my Mom so much and we had been very close and had really been friends. I missed that person but wanted to do all I could to make her happy and take good care of her. One of the issues we faced was that her mind was completely gone but she was still pretty healthy and extremely mobile. She could take the stairs faster than me. She had to be entertained and watched at all times.
I was running a race from 5:00 AM to 11:00 PM and usually up in the middle of the night. My Mom was always worried about her appearance & this hadn't changed yet so I helped her with her hair, makeup & clothes every morning while at the same time getting the kids together. Kept track of meds, meals, bathing, her bills, every aspect of her life. The girls specialized schools required parent participation and extra activities normal schools do not and also were located 30 & 45 minutes from our home.  Their academic classes carried a large workload that I would oversee. The economy was taking a toll on our business and we were very stressed by this. I am the one my husband  counts on to talk him through when he feels hopeless, so I suck my worry up and present the brighter possibilities. Keep the worry from becoming consuming.
   As the months progressed, everything began to slide downhill while I used all my Superpower strength up trying to hold it up.  Middlest was failing ninth grade. She was throwing away an amazing opportunity and nothing I tried could make her see that. Littlest was just coming out of a difficult period where she had withdrawn and been depressed, these were some after effects from her sisters problems. She was just beginning to unfold and branch back out.  Unfortunately my Mom had zeroed in on Littlest to harass. She was on her constantly and Littlest had retreated to spending nearly all her time on her swing. She wasn't even safe there. My mom would find her. She had retained her motherhood worry instinct and  would constantly tell her she was swinging to high. She needs to stop that. She would come to me to try to make Littlest get off that swing before she got hurt. Littlest understood what was going on but it didn't make it any easier for her. And it didn't help that Middlest, who was actually being a real problem for me, could do no wrong in my Moms eyes (even though she didn't know who she was) and she would defend her whenever I needed to fuss at her for something.

 I was in a hamster wheel with jet packs attached to it. I stressed over the girls school and emotional problems, money, making sure my mom was safe and happy & getting all the resources available to her. Adding support and keeping up with business, making sure the house was in order, appointments were kept, and everybody was well fed, washed and tucked in at night. Until sun downing started and I would get up a 2 AM to try to explain to mom that it wasn't time to "go" wherever she was going and she could put her pajama's back on and get some more sleep. Which usually led to anger because I was wrong and telling her what to do or tears because she was disappointed. 
Alzheimer's is delicate. My mom retained the awareness of  her authority as an adult while dealing with situations like a child. The wearing Depends at night talk was a regular occurrence. Because she "did not need these, what was wrong with me?" Oh my...delicacy. It's a seesaw you constantly have to balance.

This is my identity. I am the Caregiver. This is my Purpose. This is not only My Life.
This is what I have been given. I refused to not do it well.

Life hopped off the other end of my see-saw.

 Everyone has their own level of ability to cope. For me I say there are two kinds of stress: Cookie Stress and Can't even eat cookies Stress. I really didn't have much appetite, but it kept me out of the junk. That's a good thing, right? As I was winging my way full speed through perfectionism and keeping it all together without dropping any threads I failed to notice I was going nuts. I am not a big person but was rather pleased when the extra weight I carried around my waist began to melt away. Why I haven't weighed 113 lbs. since I was...well 13 but this is healthier for my heart, right?  I was just having a bad day when I accused my poor husband of being supportive of my mom coming to us so that he could keep me trapped in the house, while he did as the pleased.
They started to notice. My husband tried even harder to be of help. He began to urge me to relax a little. You can let some of this go. If the girls aren't keeping up in school that is their responsibility, they aren't little. If my mom wanted to wear the same outfit for 3 days and it wasn't soiled, so what. Quit hiding clothes and staging her closet so she always a fresh outfit. He started tempting me with pizza and brownies. Was he crazy?

 This is my job, this is my purpose. Why else do I exist?

One day Biggest asked to see my stomach and told me I looked like a crackhead.
Not long after my sister looked at me and said I looked anorexic and she asked what was happening with Littlest.  And then she took my mother back.
My mom was moving into the later stages, a swift decline and within a couple months of going back to my sister had degenerated to the point where a skilled nursing home was necessary. Later that year she passed away from complications of a physical illness.

And I, well, I Resigned my position as Supermom.
 I had to admit that I could not do it all. I had to learn that it's ok to be a human myself. I went out and had some fun. I went surfing. I sat on the beach while dust bunnies partied under the beds. I painted my toenails and started working out. I had a mini at home honeymoon with my husband where we re-connected on a "we as a couple" level not just an "all of us level" which we had lost at some point without realizing it. Our marriage has never been better.  I didn't check to make sure anyone finished homework. If they slacked in school I didn't beg teachers to help with this kid who wouldn't be bothered. I told Middlest enjoy summer school, I'm going to the beach. I realized I could point them in the right direction and give them resources and offer help when needed but if they didn't utilize these, I was not the one who failed. I made sure they knew their responsibilities and praised when they accomplished and restricted when they didn't. I avoided hovering to make things happen. I didn't join one committee. I helped with the business but didn't worry it to death when things didn't go well. What can you do? Nothing, just move on. I let my house get a little messy. I forgot to buy a new calendar. I said No.

 I couldn't control everything and make it right. I had to learn to let go a little. I had a year of (sorta)being selfish, at least that's how it felt to me. And I loved it. For now I am satisfied with being Good Mom, at least my kids think so and that is what matters to me. They know I am there for them. I do my best but it's not always perfect. Oh well. My seesaw isn't always balanced but it stays in motion.

I do still look forward to my life being my own but...

 I have to admit that my biggest fear of the future is a selfish one. I have never in my entire life not been responsible to or for someone else. I include my husband as part of myself, we still have never lived alone together and had the freedom to just up and do what we want and it will be a whole new experience. In my post previous to this one there is a song that I love and call my theme song. The Way.  In four more years my responsibilities will mostly be reduced to what they were 24 years ago. I am really looking forward to it. But I have this fear hanging over my head. My siblings are older than me. Two are married. My sister is 13 years older than me and  has no family of her own to turn to when she's older. My husbands parents are only a few years older than her. He does have siblings but I have to admit that my biggest fear is that just as soon as my responsibilities for caring for my kids are completed that I will be given a new assignment. My biggest fear is that I will never be in control of my own life without taking a back seat to my responsibilities to others.

But if that happens I know myself well. I love these people. And... I am not a Superhero but....

This is my Identity. I am the Caregiver. This is my Purpose. This is My Life.
This is what I have been Given. And I Try to do it well.

And hopefully I will be finished before I lose my mind. If I lose my husband first I am planning on packing up my books and my cats and disappearing up a mountain to become a crazy hermit lady. If my kids take care of me, Biggest would drive herself nuts trying to do everything perfectly. Middlest would forget to feed me and change my Depends, and Littlest would make me eat Sushi and experiment on me for her research on Dementia in her psychiatry practice.


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