Sunday, October 14, 2012

Chapter 4. The Book of Last.

Over the past few weeks, while I have been gone...I've actually been coming and going some. When I was home my time was exclusively filled with 'what's been going on around here.' It's really a shame because I could have told a multitude of stories but I don't know if I can round up enough details now to flesh them out. But just for the record here is a rundown;

I turned 47. On my birthday we were working out of town. When we arrived at our hotel our room overlooked the cemetary. I found this amusing. Also while traveling, I saw a sign that said:

New Life Cremation and Burial Society
....walk ins welcome...

I found that amusing too : )

while at the same time wondering if I'm getting some kind of metaphoric messages about endings of one phase of life and moving into another, from the cosmos, or beyond, or God or whatever you believe in..because I think they are all the same ...anyway..

Mid quit her job, moved home, talked about going to school for illustration for a couple days, was offered a job working with Biggest, came home the first day with a fever and pain in her abdomen and back, spent 8 hours in an emergency room in the middle of the night to be told she had a kidney infection, is now saving money to get a car and move out again. She fell in love with her new job and loves to discuss every moment of it in detail and it's a possibility I will now be responsible for 2 crazy cat ladies.

Biggest is very pleased because now if Mid tells her, "You're not the boss of me." she factually can reply, "Yes. I am. "

The Littlest has been very busy. She stepped aside from her usual sense of responsibility and borrowed a page from Middlest, for a morning,  by arriving to take the SAT without a calculator. What's 60 bucks and a college future mom? At least she stayed and winged it. Her writing and reading score usually save her from the math when it's all averaged but this one would have to be a miracle. Luckily her ACT score was alright. All she really cares about is the ASVAB and that's next week. She joined the boys wrestling team at school-which we all find amusing- She was Grounded from going to her jiu jitsu class for a short time due to charges of 'aggravated mouthiness' but we put her on probation and she went on to win three first place medals at her last Brazilian Jiu Jitsu tournament. We will be taking her out of town next weekend for another event, in order to support her in her quest for the girl or woman in her division who can seriously kick her ass. Haven't found her yet.
 Her father finally agreed to talk to her recruiter and we had a long and very interesting meeting with him. From time to time I hear a voice softly crooning a rendition of the Marine Corp Hymn wafting through my house. It flutters in my ear for a second and passes on. Sometimes I follow it and stand nearby, unseen, just listening. Sometimes I think someone left the TV on and I run in hoping Gomer Pyle is on...but it isn't. Because though it sometimes feels like one, this isn't a TV show.

It's very real.

Time is ticking fast. And this is the year of Last.

The 15th is my Three Year mark for beginning this blog. My blog that is mostly about raising these girls. I have 10 1/2 months left to get the last one to adulthood. This is my last year as the mother of minor children/teenagers. The last year of teenagers and high school, ever. The last year of supplies and signing forms, teacher conferences and report cards.  The last checks for yearbooks, photo's and shopping for prom. The last year of homework, check ups, and of course, senior year activities and graduation. This will be the year of the Last High School Graduation.
Last year of rules, curfews and of course, Groundings ; )
The last year I Ever Have To Deal With The PTA!!!!

The last year I have any say or control. This is strangely frustrating and liberating at the same time.

So, all of you who have joined and stayed on this journey with me, thank you for hanging in there. I still haven't figured it out yet and apparently never will. But knowing you're out there somewhere has helped me make this trip and I will be thankful for you over the fourth year too.

So. Are we there yet? Not yet. But this is the last mile. Fasten your seatbelts please. Snacks will not be provided but you're welcome to bring your own. Hopefully oxygen masks won't be needed. But, these are the Grounded Girls. And I'm not finished.....not yet.



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16 comments:

  1. Last year of rules??? By golly, as long as mine lived in my house, it was my rules! If they didn't like my rules, they could make their own... in their own house!

    Happy (belated) Birthday!!!

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    1. Oh yes! As long as they are here there are rules. The difference is they CAN decide to walk out that door and I can say 'get back here' all I want to, but they don't have to ; ) and Thank You!

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  2. Happy Belated Birthday. Of course you know that for every last you experience, there will be a first to take it's place.
    First night for you and the Sea Monkey alone in the house
    First holiday without children
    First Wedding
    First Grandchild

    For the record - you will always have a say, because you're mum and every kid will always need their mum but yeah probably not much control.

    Enjoy all the lasts and look forward to all the new firsts :-)

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    1. Oh I'm looking forward to them alright-except the holidays-i hope that never happens! For now, we actually have one wedding down already but the chances of grandchildren may have to wait until the Littlest is married. She has 'mommy plans' as well as military plans. The other two-not so much ; )

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  3. well happy happy birthday to you! although belated. i really do hope the seamonkey did something wonderful. and in my mind until you are no longer a mother, which is well never, there will always continue to be things. no lasts. it is just the last of this phase. of this string in the web of life.

    the old saying about endings and beginnings. yep.

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    1. Thanks Loco Ya Ya! And he did! he got me a hotel room overlooking the cemetary ; ) I love that. There's a reason our neighbors snap when we drive by. da da Da da snap snap...hee hee..

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  4. AWWWW!!!! Would you beleive I went to make me a hot latte, got my through cover to sit down and read this post? Not kidding! OH my your girls are almost all grown and it doesn't seem anything like 3 years. It almost seems longer too as we've seen the kids grow up :) Happy Belated Birthday to you!!!!!!

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    1. Thank You Nicole. I know! Where on earth has the time gone? It's been so nice having you here from the beginning : )

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  5. The kids' piano teacher has two daughters. One got married, then the other moved out to live with her sister and brother-in-law (breaking Eve's heart because she took her adorable pug puppy with her). Now? She's baaaack. You're still going to keep blogging even though your kids are frustratingly adult-like, right? Oh, and happy birthday-near-the-cemetery.

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    1. ha! Sounds like another Mid. Moved in with her sister and brother-in-law the first time, the boyfriend the second time. Now she's living here but spends the night at the boyfriends half the time. I'm sure it makes sense on some planet. Whichever one she came from.



      Yes, I think I'm addicted, so I'll keep going. I'll probably wait till the 4th anniversary-right after Lit turns 18 and then I'll wrap this blog up with some type of emotional mess. After that I might move permanently to my other blog, where believe it or not, I find more stuff and nonsense to post : )
      And Thank You- it was Awesome!

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  6. Happy birthday!

    I'm just beginning this merry go round with my kids...and dreading it while looking forward to the freedom at the same time! Good luck!

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    1. It's a two edged-maybe not sword-maybe an awesome pair of high heeled pumps : )

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  7. I'm about a year behind your Last. I'm running face first into an empty nest and am feeling much the same way you are right now.
    My sister lives across from a cemetery. Once, it rained hard enough she ended up with a gravestone in her yard. The irony? It was a long lost relatives headstone from a century ago. Now that is the cosmos yelling in your ear.
    Hang in there. Life is just beginning.

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    1. SEE! That would be Sooo COOL! And yes it is..I'm starting to look forward to some of it.

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  8. Wow! I can't believe it. How time flies. I'm really glad to be done with the lasts. I am so enjoying my grown girl. Of course, I have my step-daughters, but I know it won't be as bad, will it? I swore I wouldn't cry when the littlest one lost her first tooth. It was tough though. Hang in there! We are hanging with you. :-)

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    1. That's riht! You're all done. Except for the little steps and they are more like a perk for having a blended family : )

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